To be completely honest, guys
DO NOT wana be wid an over-dramatic woman. Someone who's hella clingy, vulnerable, too "willing" or too "available" to what they want or what they need from you. Some ask why he doesn't like you anymore, right girls ? Its cus the way your present yourself. Overloving. Too caring. Blowin up his phone askin the same questions every 5 minutes. Not trusting. The pain you show makes them feel like, in order to get you back they havta stoop down and show emotion. See, the thing is ... as much as they try for us women,
men do NOT like showin emotion. It makes them feel less like a man when they havta show any kinda affection to a girl that's "on their nuts" as they call it because they feel love is over-rated and they have this mindstate that always reminds them of how young they are and how much they got in fronta them inda future. Bein young, if its easy for them to get back to you whenever its convenient for them, they won't want it. They'll toss it back and look for something they can work for. Or in other words,
a love to work for. Not a love thas given to them.
Truuuust me, I GREW UP WID THREE BROTHERS. I think thas why I've grown my emotional maturity while I was still young cus I've seen my kuyas go through tons and tons of "girl/friend" drama and I've seen how they act. I grew up bein close to my brothers. And the thing is, girls never like the truth. As much as they make it seem like they 'need' the truth, we as women like to sugarcoat shit to at least just get through the day. They find out the unbelievable, harsh truth but yet they still pass through their comfort zone to impress. Impress why ? To have the love they once had back into their life. Put a fake smile but inda end they're eyes show how depressed or desperate they are to the opposite sex.
Its THAT readable.
Men strive away from women like that cus they have an ego so huge, they'd rather be happy wid someone else rather than be sad and downgrade themselves to make YOU happy. Thas why they always say,
"Noone can make you happy other than yourself." Which is how it should be. You have no idea how true that line is. Never rely on anyone but yourself to put that smile on your face. Go back and remind yourself of the independent, outgoing woman that you were when you two first met. Get back to that and give someone else a chance. But only when you feel the time is right. Not a man who's gota girl on the sideline. Not a man who's gona dip in and outta the picture cus of his "double-standard" life. If you ever come across a man that leaves a girl to be with you, bestbelieve he'll do the same damn thing to you. He'll either be thinkin to leave you alla time or he'll end up doin what he can without you knowing. MEN BE FUCKIN SLICK ! But us as women, just gota be smart about alla that. But when we know what our main focus is and depend on that only, men lure into that shit. Men love a girl that got shit doin for her on a daily. Got plans and goals everyday and still manage to find sometime to spend time with their man. Be that girl.
Focus hard, but love harder.
Be the woman that dont need a man, but know you can get it. Legit.
But in the end, YOUR TOP PRIORITY WOULD BE:
Make yourself happy. Don't depend on someone else to fulfill how you feel to make you're day. We as individual, INDEPENDENT women shouldn't rely on anyone else to make us happy regardless of how much LOVE was involved. By growin up and realizin that, at least you can say you loved, you tried, you gave it your all and you've conquered. We struggle, but its annoying to all men when its all over-exaggerated. Once again, be strong.
You've got a life ahead of you.
You've got to close that door to get to another.
Since he couldn't make you happy, just remember there's gona be that one ina million that'll do far and beyond to make you happy. Patience is a virtue. It really is. And I promise you, things are gona start turnin around and it'll all be better soon.
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My niece- "Auntie, does it hurt when a guy breaks your heart ?"
Me- "Not really, but if it happens, just make sure you have a
band-aid handy to heal it and make it all better"
My niece- * Goes to the kitchen to look for a band-aid...*
And she's only 6 years old.
Goodness babygirl, dont grow up too fast on me.
